A SAFE, ACCEPTING, SUPPORTIVE, clothing optional workshop.
Join us for a life changing, judgement-free experience.
This is a 2 day long workshop.
It’s on Saturday from 11 am to 7pm, and continues on Sunday from noon - 7 pm.
There will also be optional at home exercises between Saturday evening and Sunday morning.
Purchase 1 ticket to attend the whole workshop from start until finish (unless you let me know beforehand that you’ll have to leave early).
Want to email me any questions? (kyleroberthoffman at gmail.com)
Want to have a no pressure, complimentary call to discuss the workshop? Then email me and it’ll be great to connect with you.
(kyleroberthoffman at gmail.com)
- Want more FULFILLING intimacy with men?
-Want to make new friends or dates for authentic connection?
- Want an INCREDIBLY safe space?
With ground rules, structure, and consensual touch?
In this clothing optional, men’s only workshop you will:
Use clear communication to create deeply fulfilling touch.
If you chose to. You never have to share touch.
You are always at choice.
Become better at asking for what you want, boundaries, and saying yes or no.
Have the option of opening up and expressing yourself to other men if you want to.
- Learn how to create AMAZING intimacy in your daily life.
9.4 out of 10 is the average workshop rating on anonymous feedback forms.
NOT your average workshop.
Men have travelled from around the eastern United States to transform their lives through these special workshops and community.
Ground rules, consent, and required confidentiality will be covered.
I will facilitate clearly guided exercises including meditation, breathing, verbal sharing, and optional touch.
Exercises will take place in pairs and groups of 3 or 4 men.
If you are coming with a partner or friend and want to only do exercises together, let me know ahead of time. Otherwise you will rotate partners/groups to work with a variety of men throughout the workshop.
About 1 or 2 hours into the workshop, I will lead an optional disrobing ceremony and the space will become clothing optional.
You are fully supported in choosing to stay fully clothed, be fully naked, or anywhere in between. Whatever is best for YOU.
You can add back or remove more clothing at any point after this. You chose what’s best for you in each moment.
You are completely at choice to share touch or not. You NEVER have to nor will be pressured to share touch, ever.
During any exercise and with each partner, you will chose what's best for you - to share touch or not, and what kind of touch.
You can share consensual touch, ranging from platonic/therapeutic, to sensual or boundaried erotic touch.
NO (repeat, NO) intercourse, oral sex, anal play, or handjobs will be allowed in the workshop and the space.
Up to those workshop limits, men can chose how to consensually share touch, kiss, and cuddle.
This can include touch to the genitals.
We will be following a tantric practice of breathing, circulating energy through your whole body, and keeping the sexual energy inside of you instead of releasing it through ejaculating.
If you accidentally ejaculate there is no shame or big deal. Just clean up and move on.
In one guided exercise, men can share what kinds of new personal connections they desire in their life right now (if any). And the exercise will make it easier and less scary to trade contact with other participants looking for the same thing.
There will be 1 hour at the end of both Saturday and Sunday for men to talk and, if they’d like, exchange contact information to make new friends, new dates, a cuddle friend, etc.
Limited to ~20 preregistered men.
DON'T WAIT. These workshops have sold out up to 6 weeks early and had a waitlist.
***If you prefer to pay a different way than here, email me (kyleroberthoffman AT gmail.com) to do that.
Vaccinations against Covid-19, etc. are encouraged but not required to attend.
You are welcome to wear a mask if you'd like to.
Everyone will be instructed and reminded to not attend if they are experiencing any illness symptoms that day, whether it may be a cold or something else.
This is a completely sober workshop.
Diversity is welcome and celebrated here, including spiritual orientation, ALL body shapes, ages, sexual orientation, relationship statuses, race, ethnicity, etc.
***If you’re not sure if this workshop is for you, email me (kyleroberthoffman AT gmail.com) and I’ll help you decide in a no pressure way, or help you find a better option for you.
This workshop occurs exactly how it is described here. The boundaries always stay the same within the physical workshop space and nothing unexpected occurs.
If men want to connect personally outside of the workshop, in their own homes or hotels, they can spend their time however they want to.
It's common if you've never done anything like this before. That's great, and you're invited to email me (kyleroberthoffman AT gmail.com) and/or have a complimentary call with me beforehand.
If you have questions about the workshop or would like to speak on a no pressure call first to help you decide, email me. (kyleroberthoffman AT gmail.com)
If you know someone who would be served by this workshop, email me and I’ll guide you from there.
The basic agreements/ground rules:
Emotions are welcome here.
Keep everyone’s attendance and anything they share in strict confidentiality.
No giving advice or trying to fix people.
Respect diversity. Speak your truth. Respect other people sharing their truth.
You never have to share touch today, ever.
Get consent before touching and communicate your boundaries.
If you’re a yes say yes. If you’re a no say no.
You’re encouraged to change your mind.
Get Kyle or his co-facilitator if there’s a concern or you need help in anyway.
Details about the workshop space:
Free, spacious parking lot.
The workshop space is private, with heating and AC.
There's a seperate room to store your things, food for the day, etc.
It's a hub of the local men's community.
They enthusiastically support these kinds of workshops.
DON'T WAIT. These workshops have sold out up to 6 weeks early and had a waitlist.
Frequently asked questions
How does the workshop go? What happens?
A typical order of events is me giving a welcome talk, going over ground rules, guided meditation, introductions, guided exercises about verbal consent & negotiating boundaries, optional disrobing ceremony, guided exercises about emotional and physical intimacy in partners or small groups, optional large group coaching, sharing lessons you learned, a social hour for men to connect and optionally trade contact information if desired, and people gradually leaving.
The workshop boundaries and agreements are upheld the entire time, anytime that men are in the workshop location.
Can I come by myself? With a friend? As a couple with my partner?
Yes! You are welcome to attend in all of those ways. Some men are understandably afraid that everyone else will be with a friend/partner, or know others at the workshop. This isn’t the case.
So far most men attend by themselves. So far each workshop has had a larger percentage, maybe the majority of men, who are attending one of my workshops for the first time. And some men may know some other participants from past workshops, and some have become friends or partners after meeting there.
Men have also commonly attended with a friend or as a couple. In this case it is your choice how much you do exercises together and how much you rotate to work with other participants. You can let me know your preference before the workshop and change your minds on this at any moment throughout the workshop.
What are the exercises like?
Some exercises are more focused on emotional intimacy and some are more focused on physical intimacy.
Some example exercises are:
1 partner is in the requesting role, and asks for how he wants to spend the time. The partners negotiate boundaries and the other partner gives to the requestor. Then the roles switch.
A guided eye gazing exercise to help you see and be seen beyond your physical body. To be seen for your amazing life’s journey, your failures and successes, and the pain and joy we all have in common.
In a 3 or 4 person group, one man at a time having the opportunity to receiving attention or touch from 2 or 3 men at once. Some special opportunities are being ‘middle spoon’ or having 2-3 men lie beside or on you at once to feel enveloped in touch and connection.
While optionally sharing touch, also being invited to share with a partner some things you love and are working on loving about your body, some things that were challenging about your journey with sexuality, as well as what you want to celebrate about your sexuality now, and much more.
What happens if I’m partnered with someone I don’t want to share touch with or do a certain exercise with?
This is understandably one of the most common questions and concerns I hear when a man is considering attending. I go over the following things many times throughout the workshop:
One of the most valuable things you can get out of this workshop is improved skill and comfort at stating your boundaries, saying ‘no thank you’, and negotiating to possibly find a mutual ‘yes’ to something else.
Part of this includes how to receive a ‘no thank you’ and respond in a way that supports the other man’s boundary.
Through many means the workshop normalizes and shows the value of saying ‘no thank you’ or ‘would you be into this other thing instead?’
Early on you’ll do verbal exercises to practice saying yes, no, and negotiating to try to find a mutual ‘yes’ to a different way to connect.
I’ll share some of my own stories. One where I signed up for a touch workshop and after experiencing some trauma before the workshop, I said ‘no’ to everyone and didn’t share any touch at all at the workshop. It was an incredibly empowering experience for me!
And another story about how a leader of my first men’s touch event reminded me of an old perpretrator. So I chose not to share touch with him for the first few months that I attended that group. That man and I eventually became close friends and often now helps me facilitate my workshops! This is an example of how a ‘no' is often not about us, and a reason to not assume the worst or take things personally.
I may share about how if I can’t trust you to say ‘no,’ then I really can’t trust you’re being honest when you say ‘yes.’ And if we’re not able to say 'no,’ then we can’t really get close to anyone because it’d be too dangerous.
I’ll offer that you can practice saying ‘no thank you’ in the workshop even if you’re actually a ‘yes’ inside, because this is a great place to practice that skill!
Throughout the workshop I’ll emphasize that there are many ways you can modify any exercise to make it comfortable for all involved. You can always pass on the offered exercise, and instead with your partner/partners you can meditate, eye gaze, journal, only talk, or ask that I come over and give you other ideas.
You can also always take a break to use the restroom, or hang out in a different part of the studio if you want some space.
In each exercise you will communicate and if you share touch, you can chose more platonic or less intimate touch together. You can also always chose how much clothing you’re wearing when sharing touch.
I’ll go over how you can make different choices at each moment, and your choices may change over time when with the same partner or when with a different partner. And that’s completely great and not a disrespect to anyone. You’ll be encouraged to practice being in touch with your body and heart, and changing your mind at any time.
The reality is we all have different preferences and desires at different times. This is a chance to practice being mature men who honor the choices of ourselves and others.
Thoughts and feelings may come up when we receive a ‘no thank you.’ That’s completely fine and it’s a great space to practice allowing that to come up, processing it, and treating ourselves with compassion. Myself and my helpers are also here to support you with any strong emotions that come up.
What happens if i get an erection? What happens if I don’t get an erection?
Your body is accepted, supported and celebrated here however erect or not erect your penis is in any given moment. There is no goal of having or not having an erection.
Part of the workshop will be about helping you love your body and sexuality more than ever before.
Some men are concerned about offending someone by having or not having an erection with a certain partner, etc. This is unlikely, and part of the workshop teaches about not taking people’s reaction to us as personally or as a negative thing.
Everyone is always at choice about if and how they connect. Exercises or touch can be adjusted or passed on so everyone is comfortable.
I’ve been to other men’s workshops/events by different leaders, where boundaries were pushed or crossed, or I felt pressure to get naked, etc. Should I be concerned about that here?
I have participated in workshops where those things occured and they did not work well for me as a participant.
As far as men’s touch or clothing optional workshops/spaces go, my workshops are very rare that there is an incredibly strong focus on consent, everyone being at choice as each moment, and the value of setting boundaries and saying ‘no thank you.’ This will be gone over many times, including stories from my own life or from clients about why this is so critical.
What’s the weather there?
It’s a paradise for those who want to escape cold winters! It’s a GREAT chance to catch up on your critical Vitamin D levels and help those of us who feel more down or isolated during cold northern winters. Plus you’ll have this to look forward to, making the rest of the winter more doable.
In February the average temperature is 77 degrees. There’s also a lot more sunlight per day than in the mid-Atlantic or places further north.
Many people enjoy visiting the beaches and/or swimming in pools or the ocean this time of year.
What about flying in?
Many men will be flying in. Some will make the trip a transformational vacation and take advantage of additional opportunities in the area, including connecting with workshop participants in the days after the workshop. In the days before and after the workshop, there are other weekly men’s classes at the studio where the workshop is held.
Lodging options and the workshop space is easily accessed from the Fort Lauderdale airport. Rideshare services (ie Uber), taxis, and other options make it easy to get here from the airport, get around town, go to the beach, etc.
There are inexpensive flights from the mid Atlantic area to this airport, and probably from many other areas too. Myself and others have found great deals using Kayak.com and google flights.
What about lodging if I'm coming from out of town?
You can add yourself to a list of men interested in or definitely attending the workshop. You can indicate if you're willing to host out of town men, you're looking to split lodging with someone, etc. There are many lodging options nearby, including misterbandb.com (LGBTQ+ version of Air B&B).
Can I do a 1 on 1 session with you Kyle?
Yes. In additional to my normal in person and remote sessions, I'm also offering 1 on 1 sessions in Fort Lauderdale from 2/19 - 2/23. Location options there include my own indoor space in Wilton Manors (free parking), in a public park, on a beach, or possibly in a space your provide. Email me (kyleroberthoffman AT gmail.com) to schedule a session or ask any questions you have.